In life with all of its constant ups and downs it can be so easy to have the mindset that “life sucks.” We all know life sucks, but if “life sucks” is the mantra you live by, there’s some changes you need to make immediately. Life isn’t supposed to suck. Sure we all have bad days, but every day shouldn’t be a bad day.
There’s some changes I’m making in my life that are making dramatic improvements in my outlook of life and my balance.
So many people are unbalanced
Hanging by a moment, living on a thread. Whatever you choose to call it, you must balance your life so that you’re living your best life every day.
We only get one life to live and it’s astonishing how many people take it for granted. So many people go through life living for someone else or living someone else’s dream just to make other people feel better or to make people feel like they’re making themselves feel better because they think they’re doing the right thing?
What is “the right thing?”
I’m not necessarily qualified to answer such a deep question so generally, but for me “the right thing” includes making sure I have more good days than bad days. It’s not easy to have good days. You have to work at.
I’ve been recently reflecting on changes I can make to improve my life immediately and I felt compelled to share it here with others. In fact, by writing this post I’m initiating one of the four things on the list.
1. Change Your Routine: Life can become really dull and meaningless when your practicing the same mundane routine everyday. You get up, go to work, pick the kids up from school, come home, eat dinner, and do it all over again the next day. Find a way to spice up your life by changing your routine. Instead of waiting until the weekend to go out with your significant other, plan a date night during the week. I do this on Wednesday’s and it REALLY helps. If you’re single or want to find something to do on your own, find a quiet scenic location near by and read a good back before or after work.
2. Help Somebody: There’s nothing that makes you feel better than knowing you made a difference in someone’s life. As I mentioned in a previous post, helping people isn’t limited to feeding the homeless, although that may be a great initiative. Bring out your inner superhero. Help someone when you see they need help. You don’t have to plan a day to go help people. It should be natural. So when you’re at the grocery store and you see the little old lady who needs help putting groceries in her car, offer to help her. Or if you see someone at work with a frown on their face, offer to lend an ear if they’ve got something going on. (Be careful though not to be too nosy. It will backfire big time) Do you have any idea how contagious a smile is? When you see people around you who are happy, it makes you want to be happy, so make it a simple goal to make other people around you put a smile on their face. It’s the easy way to change people’s lives and rid people of the belief that people don’t care and people suck.
3. Get Healthy: Physical health and diet is incredibly important, but instead of bringing up things we’re preached to about everyday through commercials and late night infomercials, it’s important to keep your mental health clear. You can do this by removing stress in your life. So much stress we have in our lives is created by our own doing. My father has a neurological condition known as ALS. It’s a debilitating condition, but he manages it extremely well by decreasing stress in his life. He recently got Lasik eye surgery to remove his dependence on eye glasses, which for him I can imagine was at least a mild stress that has now been relieved. Stress for many people like myself can become so debilitating that it evokes physical reactions within the body. Whenever I become stressed, I get severe headaches, my vision goes blurry, I have difficulty walking, and I generally feel like the world is coming to an end. This is awful, and all because of the feeling of stress. Find creative ways to manage your stress. I’ve recently found that for me, I can relieve stress very easily by distracting my mind from the situation causing me stress. I do so by mentally walking away from the situation. If I start thinking of the pressures of a business project which are caused by ridiculous paranoia, I immediately strike up a conversation with somebody about something completely non-related, I read a book, watch tv, stare up into the sky. Whatever it takes, distract your mind from stress that exists purely from things you can not control.
Prolonged psychological stress may negatively impact health, and has been cited as a factor in cognitive impairment with aging, depressive illness, and expression of disease. Stress management is the application of methods to either reduce stress or increase tolerance to stress. Relaxation techniques are physical methods used to relieve stress. Psychological methods include cognitive therapy, meditation, and positive thinking which work by reducing response to stress. Improving relevant skills and abilities builds confidence, which also reduces the stress reaction to situations where those skills are applicable.
4. Seek Your Passion: You will hear this brought up often in my blog, because I believe it to be so important. So many people in life lack passion and are without purpose. They take the road most often traveled by so they can conform to a societal standard that makes them feel better and gains approval from peers and family.
Americans hate their jobs more than ever before in the past 20 years, with fewer than half saying they are satisfied.
The trend is strongest among workers under the age of 25, less than 39 percent of whom are satisfied with their jobs.
Workers age 45 to 54 have the second lowest level of satisfaction (less than 45 percent), according a survey conducted by The Conference Board, a market information company that also puts out the Consumer Confidence Index and the Leading Economic Indicators.
Sara Blakely is an example of someone who took a leap of faith and followed her passion. She created the $150 million enterprise known as Spanx. She had the passion and desire to change the control top for women. “Working as a sales trainer by day and performing stand-up comedy at night, she didn’t know the first thing about the pantyhose industry,” but she saw a need to help women (remember… #2 was help somebody) reshape their bodies in their clothes.
What a success story! But Sara’s story didn’t come without hard work. Having passion should not be confused with having pipe dreams you have no intention to put initiative and hard work behind. With passion, hard work, and determination, you can achieve anything you want in life, even if like Sara you had no idea about what you are doing.
I hope I’ve given you some things to think about that you can put into affect to immediately begin to improve your life.